Trust is relational. We may withhold information or lie to one person about something (polyamory, infidelity, dating, substance use, where we live or want to live, not liking or adoring our children or partners, how much chocolate we eat, nose picking… name it) and not someone else. If we are being lied to, why? Is power a factor? Are differing values or judgement or fear of disappointment a factor? I frequently meet people that have strong opinions on “liars.” “I don’t like liars etc.” I do not find this stance useful. I find standing in curiosity useful. Why did this person lie in this instance? What part did we, our various cultures (Western, liberal, Capitalistic, religious, running, work- we all participate in multiples cultures), our families etc, have to play? From this place, there is room for conversation, awareness, learning, and relationship.
